As I’m sitting down to write this, I confess I’m feeling stressed.
My to-do-list to get my home ready to host Thanksgiving for my family is a mile long and I’m running out of days to work on it.
I’m not a procrastinator, there have been a few (very important) things that have delayed my attention to said list but the fact of the matter is, I’m still behind.
Did I mention we were in the middle of renovating our kitchen?
Did I also mention that we are hosting our big annual fundraiser for our 20-year-old non-profit this weekend?
Anyone else feeling the strain of Thanksgiving preparation?
I love Thanksgiving and I love having my family over for such a wonderful holiday, so naturally, I want it to be ‘perfect.’
What is perfect, though? I ask myself.
When I stop stressing myself out over whether or not the crown molding is going to be painted in time, and I chill out for a hot second, I remember that what makes it perfect will be everyone being there and enjoying themselves.
That may be corny to some, but that’s what it really boils down to, doesn’t it?
I’m trying to remind myself of these three things:
I.e. determine what is most important. For me, as I stated above, is that all of my family can be here for Thanksgiving and everyone enjoys themselves. So simple. And this is largely determined by me and my attitude on that day. It’s my house, I set the tone. If I’m stressed, everyone will feel it. Consequently, if my attitude is gratitude, they will feel that and feel at ease. When I keep my focus on that, that is something I can work towards and it has nothing to do with whether or not the recessed lighting gets put in.
Let go of the ideal
We all have an idea in our head of how things ‘should’ be for the holidays, right? The food is supposed to taste perfect, the house is supposed to be uber clean and decorated to the nines and we’re supposed to look amazing, too! Perfection, everybody, perfection!
But you know what holidays stand out in my mind? The ones that didn’t go according to plan, the ones where something unexpected happened. Like the Thanksgiving the pecan pie filling was green. no joke! lol #PieFail Or the Thanksgiving my chunky little nephew took his first steps. sniff, sniff. I love him so much!
Perfection is boring, we must let go of the ideal and embrace… life.
Embrace the imperfections
Two Thanksgivings ago we hosted the holiday at our house with cardboard taped down in the dining room. This was because we were renovating the dining room that year and needed to protect the floor. We stopped the renovation, cleaned the place up as best we could and invited everyone over. It was an awesome Thanksgiving, the food was amazing, no one was fighting, lol and we all had a great time!
I have already accepted that my old sliding doors are not going to be finished in time before Thanksgiving, I guess I need to sit down and rationally work through what is possible to get done (without killing myself or my husband) and what I need to let go of. The food won’t taste any better or worse if I don’t have a backsplash in my kitchen, right?
I feel myself a little less stressed now than when I started writing this post. Thanks for ‘listening’ to me work through what’s important. You all are the best.
If you’re starting to feel the stress of the holiday, too, my hope is that you will be able to prioritize what truly is important, let go of the ideal and embrace the imperfections of real life. The holiday will likely be messy.. but amazing.
Blessings on your home,