Do what you can

As I was heading out the door today to clean one of our Airbnb’s, I realized the keys were missing. Ugh.. Then I remembered that I had the guest key in the lockbox. Whew!

Catrina At Home Keys

What I forgot when I got inside the Airbnb was that we recently put in a cabinet for our cleaning supplies, that had a lock on it. Even though it was clearly marked for staff only, guests were helping themselves to the previous cabinet’s contents, so we needed a new one. Double ugh.. I was back to square one, I needed the cleaning supplies to clean the house. I called The Husband and sure enough the keys were with him, it would be at least an hour before I would have them in-hand.

I was frustrated.

There were no guests coming in this evening so technically speaking I could come back later… but I knew if I went back home I would find a million things to do and the Airbnb cleaning would be put off, again.

I made a decision to do what I could till he got there.

I have a very specific order to my cleaning routine. It’s very efficient and I don’t like to change it up, it throws me off and takes longer.

But I had a choice to make, get upset about the keys not being where they were supposed to be or do what I could till the cabinet could be opened.

This got me thinking…

Isn’t this often the way it is with the work we want to do on our homes? We know what we want to do but frustration settles in as we are hit with roadblock after roadblock.

We can’t do this until we get that done and we can’t get that done because… X, Y and Z.

It’s one thing to be on hold because of fear of making the wrong choices but it’s another thing altogether to be stopped before we even get started because of someone or something beyond our control.

And so we don’t do anything.
Here are a few tips that got me through my mini setback today.

  1. Get creative
    My tried and true routine was out the window.  I like order but sometimes there is none to be found. It didn’t take a lot of effort but I made myself look at the situation differently and work on the things that I could.
    If you’re not able to start where you want to, find something else that you CAN do with what you have right now.
    Sometimes that may be planning, prep work or work on another project altogether.
    Basically, if we’re looking for excuses for not getting started, we will find them and if we’re looking for opportunities to get started, we will find them.
  2. Get busy
    I’m the first to admit that it’s so dang easy to sit and complain (and do nothing) when we’re not able to do things the “way we’ve always done them” or the “way they’re supposed to be done.” Making a decision early on that you WILL start and that you WILL do something on your project regardless, will help you get moving. And movement is all you need to get the ball rolling, whether we’re talking about a bathroom renovation or a closet organization.
  3. Chose joy
    I wish I could say I always win at this but I don’t.
    Joy is a choice. Happiness is a choice.
    I firmly believe we are in control of our own emotions. So when we hit a setback, large or small, we have a choice how we’re going to respond. And that choice has the power to make or break our day. I had no control over the keys not being where they were supposed to be, but I had absolute control over how I was going to respond.

choose joy quote CAH

I confess.. I basically wrote this post for myself. lol
I can get caught in the gripe zone and sometimes it’s hard to find my way out. As my kitchen renovation slows to a crawl, I must make a conscious decision to do what I can on other projects etc. until we are able to tackle it again. This isn’t a path I would’ve chosen but this is where I find myself. What I CAN choose, is joy, even in the midst of a partially renovated kitchen.

How do you deal with roadblocks and setbacks? What are your coping skills for when things don’t go as planned?

Blessings,
Catrina

 

 

Three Tips for the best Christmas ever!

Christmas is just days away and if you’re like me, you’re in serious planning/stressing/working mode and the internal tension is starting to build.

Will I be able to finish all the decorating in time for my party?

Will Uncle Joe start telling off color jokes again at Christmas dinner?

Will I have time to make my famous cookies that everyone loves?

Sooooo much going on right now, right?

Here are three tips to help you have the best Christmas ever:

Relationships: Let it go

The very best thing you can do to deal with family and relational issues is to not bring last years trash to this years festivities. Did someone offend you last year? Leave it in the past. Was someone rude, late, obnoxious, insulting, impatient or ungrateful? Leave it in the past. Don’t bring it (those hurt feelings and bad memories) to this years party. Is that easier said than done? Well, yeah, but it doesn’t make it any less effective. You have a choice here, don’t forget that. You can choose to hold on to resentment and bitterness or you can choose to forgive, wipe that slate clean and start fresh, to have a great holiday.

Perfectionism: Release it

We all have ideas in our heads on what would make the holidays PERFECT. If you’re like me you may struggle with wanting things to be a certain way and people to act a certain way, etc.. (Maybe you just want them to act like adults, that’s not too much to ask, is it?) This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, I know its popular to rag on perfectionists but the fact is- we need people with high standards in our world, we need goal setters and achievers. The question becomes, what lengths are we willing to go to, to achieve this illusive “perfection” and how do we respond when it is not achieved? Total transparency- I have struggled many times with not responding well. I want to get it ALL done and I want it ALL to be perfect! And in years past I have made myself sick with trying to DO IT ALL. And I have gotten upset with those who have messed up my plans.

Somewhere around 2010 I said, enough is enough. No more striving, no more doing things I don’t want to do, just to please others and no more killing myself to achieve my crazy standard of perfection. It’s been a process (I’m still working on it) but I can tell you, this has made the BIGGEST positive impact on my Christmas season. I have more joy in my heart when I’m not pursuing something that in truth, can never be achieved. I would encourage you to consider dropping your high expectations of yourself,  your family and your home decor this Christmas and embracing the ‘imperfections of reality’ for a happier holiday.

Focus: What is important?Best Christmas Ever CatrinaAtHome.com

We read and hear this all the time, right? Remember the “reason for the season” etc.      We KNOW what’s MOST important is the birth of Christ and spending time with family during the holidays but something happens… somehow our focus gets… off. We start striving to be admired for our cooking, our decorating, our Christmas card photo, our outfits, our perfect house, our gifts, our instagram photos, our blah, blah, blah and the “reason for the season” gets pushed down to 4th or 5th place (if it’s even on the chart). So how do we get back on track? How do we make this right? Does something terrible have to happen to a family member for us to recalibrate and remember whats REALLY important? Dear God, I hope not. But that will definitely do the trick. Somehow, when we have a near fatal car accident or we lose track of a child in a store for 10 seconds that everything that’s important rises to the top and all the other stuff fades away with lightening speed. Remember, you are the pace setter in your home, you determine what is important and what is trivial. You can choose to focus on family time over all the distractions of the season. Also, remember the little ones are watching, be the person you want them to grow up to be. Focus on what you want THEM to focus on.

Remembering what’s important this season and letting go of bitterness and perfection will help you have the best Christmas ever. I promise!!

Blessings to you and yours,

Catrina